I’m at that stage in life where my contemporaries are having babies. In fact, it seems like every female I know went to a secret meeting and said: ‘Let’s all have babies immediately’ and everyone agreed.
I’ve said before that I think babies are easy people to buy for. But I’m trying to solve the problem of when to celebrate new life with a gift.
My friend Rochelle is Jewish. She believes it is a bad idea to give gifts before the baby has arrived safely. I understand her logic. Not counting your chickens before they hatch is sensible but it does mean that the excitement is tempered for nine months.
In England, baby showers aren’t the norm. If they were then we’d have a definite date to give gifts and we’d get the mother’s consent to be open and joyous about the occasion. Instead, we’re left to flounder about, fretting about what to do and when it’s OK to do it.
As with all gift-giving riddles, I think it’s best to be open but to ‘read’ the parents and let their behaviour guide you. Here's my play-it-safe guide:
- Announcement - send them a card
- First visit to pregnant mother: something small for the her. It would then be an opportune time to ask the parents what they’d appreciate for the baby.
- Baby arrives: go ahead and give a gift for the baby during your first visit.
By the way. I bought those cute Peter Rabbit pj's from M&S. I bought these for myself when I catch up with my contemporaries and have a little baby.
Check out my baby ideas pinterest board!